What do you know about our topic today?
Or rather, what do you know about it that doesn’t
involve rumors of Sting’s 24-hour marathon sex sessions with wife
Trudie Styler? I didn’t know much either—so I turned to the experts to
find out more:here are my findings...
WHAT TANTRA IS…AND ISN’T
Born in India over 6,000 years ago, the practice of Tantra has to do with much more than sex. Tantra practitioner Matthew Stillman
explains, “In the sacred Indian texts the purpose of Tantra (in its
overtly sexual and non-sexual forms) is for spiritual awakening,
enlightenment, moksha or freedom. That might be outside the experience
or language of many people, so a more secular approach might be to help
discover and nourish all parts of you and using sexual energy as a door
toward that.”
He also cautions against the misconception “that Tantra is all about sex
and will make you have sex for billions of hours and ride waves of
orgasm into eternity.” You can blame Sting for that one. Instead, try
approaching Tantra as a practice in being more present, and deepening
your connection with your partner and yourself.
WHY PRACTICE TANTRA
“Our lives are so outwardly focused and predicated on acquisition of
stuff, and being busy and productive, that so often relationships slump
or crumple under the weight of exhaustion,” Stillman says. Eventually
you find yourselves, he continues, “just eating together, talking about
your day…as you watch television next to each other on the couch, and
then go to sleep.” Sound uncomfortably familiar?
Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, co-authors of Great Sex Made Simple, The Essence of Tantric Sexuality, and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment,
believe that adding just a few of the basic techniques of Tantra can
transform your relationship (with yourself or your partner), creating
“the conditions in which you can fall in love with each other again and
again.”
As for your sex
life? Stillman says that once he started practicing Tantra, he found
sex more playful, more curious, and more energizing. “I can also say
that some of the most outwardly productive and satisfying times in my
life have been aligned when I have been practicing the most,” he adds.
WHERE TO START
EYE-GAZING: Stand facing each other and gazing
wordlessly into each other’s eyes. It sounds simple and will take no
more than 5 minutes a day, but the results can be transformative. “This
practice creates a sense of balance and solidarity and fortifies the
feeling of being in a partnership,” say Johnson and Michaels,
recommending the exercise be practiced formally and regularly. “Once the
habit has been established, eye-gazing can be employed as a way of
creating harmony when there’s a feeling of disruption and before having
any discussions that might trigger negative emotions.”
TUNING IN: A more advanced variation on the
eye-gazing technique, Stillman recommends sitting cross-legged face to
face with your partner and gazing into each other’s left eye.
Synchronize your breath as much as possible. During the exercise, have
one partner offer up a number from 1-10 about the level of attention and
devotion they are sensing in the gaze. “Offer the number up without
judgment or agenda but just as a snapshot of that moment,” Stillman
says. “See how softening the eyes or the mouth changes the number.” Have
the chosen partner say a number every 10 or 20 seconds, and see if you
can get to above an 8. Once you do, hold it there for a few minutes, and
then switch roles.
GOING SOLO: Whether you have a partner or not, you
can also explore the benefits of Tantra alone—in fact, the vast majority
of traditional Tantric practices are individual, according to Johnson
and Michaels. Johnson and Michaels recommend solo eye-gazing, using a
mirror to spend 3-5 minutes a day looking deeply into your own eyes.
“Gaze upon yourself with a sense of reverence and deep appreciation.”
SELF-PLEASURE: “Bringing a level of attention and
patience and willingness to explore your own body can only serve to
deepen any Tantric practices you take up with your partner,” says
Stillman. He recommends a mixture of soft touch, slower speed, and deep,
slow breathing during self-pleasure. “You can find ‘the spot,’ this
goes for male and female bodies, and touch it much lightly and/or more
slowly and keep the excitement at a comparable level. See if you can
find a spot just off the main one that is sensitive too and try to
expand the zone of pleasure. Keep trying to expand that zone if you can
over time.”
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