What do you know about
tantric sex? Or rather, what do you know about it that
doesn’t involve rumors of Sting’s 24-hour marathon
sex sessions with wife Trudie Styler? I didn’t know much either—so I turned to the experts to find out more:
WHAT TANTRA IS…AND ISN’T
Born in India over 6,000 years ago, the practice of
Tantra has to do with much more than
sex. Tantra practitioner
Matthew Stillman explains, “In the sacred Indian texts the purpose of Tantra (in its overtly sexual and non-sexual forms) is for spiritual awakening, enlightenment, moksha or freedom. That might be outside the experience or language of many people, so a more secular approach might be to help discover and nourish all parts of you and using sexual energy as a door toward that.”
He also cautions against the misconception “that
Tantra is all about
sex and will make you have sex for billions of hours and ride waves of orgasm into eternity.” You can blame Sting for that one. Instead, try approaching Tantra as a practice in being more present, and deepening your connection with your partner and yourself.