Its crazy but true. After all these years my bubble of love burst. Indeed love is not a feeling. Its not a being with someone. Its not even words neither is it seasonal...(february 14th on my mind). Dont get it twisted i meant to say its much more than that. Can i get a witness? ahaaa thanks for that witness. So again i set out to find love, i mean real love when it seemed like i didnt see the shade of love i knew...By the way did i say the colour of love isnt red? Absolutely! its not! Now Let me shock you more. I didnt find what i knew, instead see what i found...
It turns out there are some “do’s” and “don’ts” that can make a huge positive difference as you set your goals to find love this 2014;
1. Be intentional. It’s far too easy to let another year drift by, taking no particular action, and hoping something will magically happen to improve your love life. Setting powerful intentions frames your mindset and stimulates new behaviors. Set intentions such as “I am open to new relationships,” and “I am committed to taking steps each week/month to meet new people and expand my social life.”
2. Hope is not a good strategy. Sitting around hoping that the pizza delivery guy will turn out to be Prince Charming is a formula for disappointment and a repeat of the year before. To make a positive change, you need 3 things: powerful intentions (“I will meet my soul mate this year.”), strong goals (“I will join two online dating services; I will go out to social events where I can meet new people at least twice every month”), and ACTION (do what you said you would do).
3. Unpack your emotional baggage. Walking around with old pain, resentment, and regret is like painting a sign on your back that says “keep away unless you are also deeply damaged.” DON’T go on dates with new people while you are still swimming in emotional residue. Journal (see www.journalwithin.com), meditate, talk it over with friends, but do all these things with the aim of letting go of your baggage. Get professional help if you need it. DON’T let another day go by in which you invest energy in the past except for learning purposes.
4. DO get as healthy spiritually, emotionally, physically, and financially as you can be in preparation for dating. DON’T go out to meet people hoping that someone else will magically fix your life. Fix it yourself first and you’ll attract someone else who is healthy and whole.
Written by Nina Atwood for YourTango.com.
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